Has it ever happen to you that you see a new clothing or a different style and you would like to try it on you but… Have you though that it would not look good on you? Maybe you have thought that, that person is different from you for an infinite number of reasons and that is why only that person can use it and you can’t. Or maybe you have thought that you could try it, that you would like to wear a similar skirt or a hat but you do not have it and you don't want to spend money on something that you are not going to use?
Whatever the reason why you have not tried wearing that garment, that style, color or accessory, some people cannot get it out of their heads. The feeling that you would like to try it over and over again every time you see someone wearing it and think again about whether it would suit you or not. For many, it can be very easy to try new things, but for many others (including myself sometime ago) we can feel a little nervous or panic to the point of completely rejecting the idea of trying it. There can be a lot of reasons; some are ashamed of what others might say and therefore wearing a different garment from their friends can be challenging. Some people have a very strong image of themselves either because of comments they have received or heard or maybe it is because of things they have seen in the media, or it may be because they have worn the same style of jeans all their lives and cannot imagine another thing because it just doesn't go with your personality. Maybe you feel like you would look like a weak and fragile girl if you wear clothes that make you look like a doll. Maybe all this time you have been wearing black and the idea of wearing something colorful appeals to you but it scares you or the other way around. Or maybe you think that wearing a pink shirt would take away your toughness or your metal spirit. Whatever your case, here are some tips to start using that new clothing and decide for yourself if it is something you want to continue exploring or if it definitely does not go with you.
1 - Choose a day
Choosing a day can make it easier for you to wear that new item of clothing. You can choose Christmas, your birthday or a visit to your grandmother's house on a Sunday for lunch. It doesn’t matter how special the day is, the important thing is that it is a day that you feel that you are going to be able to use it, that is, that you are less scared to use it, a day that you do not go to reject it because of any excuse you come up with. The important thing is to choose a day and not avoid it. Is your day to experiment and have fun with a new look! Of course, if you already have the suit you want to try and you don't need a date, use it now!
2 - Choose the people
The other good thing about choosing a day is not just committing to that activity of wearing your new garment but using it with people with whom you feel comfortable. Maybe that new skirt you don't want to wear it on college day or office day, but that's fine, you don't have to go out into the world and face it all at the same time. You can choose to wear your new look by going out with a friend to the park, or maybe on your work from home day, or maybe on a family outing. Whatever gives you more security and confidence.
3 - Get the cheap stuff.
Whatever you want to try, you may have to buy it? Of course you can borrow it but if you prefer to buy it and you are afraid of "but what if I don't like it?". Well, I will tell you to go out and buy it without making any excuses. It doesn't have to be the most expensive skirt or a fancy designer's shirt for it to fit you. Buy something cheap but pretty and trust that your chances of liking it are high. In the worst case scenario, it may be used by your siblings or friends or you can resell it online or even change it at the store. Anyway, it all depends on your budget. Whatever your case, keep in mind how much you can invest and buy the garment you want. Also you can do it alone or with that trusted person <3.
4 - Build a set
Have fun and take your time looking for the rest of the elements of your outfit. Maybe you already had them at home or maybe you had them in mind when you went shopping and bought everything at once. Whatever the case, build your outfit from shoes to accessories if that makes you feel good and safe. The more time you spend on it the more you get tired of thinking about it until you relax and bye bye nerves ha!
5 - Try it several times in front of the mirror.
If you odd about how you look and you cannot get rid of your nerves, you can wear that outfit in front of the mirror several times. But STOP! don't just wear it and decide it doesn't fit you! Make poses, use it with the shoes, the accessories and other elements you prepared and remember that whatever you look like, the day you are going to wear it you are going to look 100 times better wearing the full outfit as well as having an awesome attitude.
6 - Use it!
Use it! Now! You have had that piece of clothing with you long enough either a couple of hours since you bought it or months since you saw it or years that you have thought about it. No matter what your case is, if the opportunity has already arrived, any new excuse that comes to your mind you will have to throw away, ignore it or tell yourself that there is no turning back (because there is not) is YOUR special day! It doesn't matter if what you chose was to go out to the front yard to talk to your neighbor, that day you are the best of the best wearing that outfit. It is normal to feel nervous but you can definitely go over all of that (you could even told someone to force you to dress up like that no matter what!) Whatever your form of motivation, is time to apply it. Yaaassss!
7 - Keep exploring and use it often.
Honestly most of the cases I has seen people continue to wear that garment after the first time. After proving that the style fits them perfectly, they no longer let it go. That's why I recommend, you continue exploring other combinations with that look. Do not settle for just that one time and only use it with the same accessories, play with your clothes and your style until your new image becomes so common for you to wear it that it only give you joy, complements and self-esteem!
If you have reached the end of this post thanks for reading! More than anything I hope it has served you or anyone you want to discuss it with. Bye, bye!
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